There was a time when in childhood, all we wanted was to be grown-ups. And now, when we are all grown-up, we wish to have our childhood back, isn’t it? Well, we can only wish and do nothing about it. Experiences are all we have.
The worst part of growing up is sure waking up early in the day, getting ready for work, run through the entire day at work, come back home all tired and drowsy, and go straight to bed. This is the life of most us. Am I right or am I right?
Let’s admit it, people, working at an early age, is a big deal, and especially when you are a woman, I bet there are certain experiences that we all face. Well, following are some of such relatable experiences you must have had at your workplace.
- Being looked from toe to head by all your male colleagues and BOSS at work, when you dress nicely at work, or otherwise as well, cause let’s face it men will be men.
- No matter how hard you work, despite your continued efforts, disciplined work, or whatever, you are still not dedicated enough to impress the BOSS. Well, who cares?
- You hear rumors about yourself that you might not have even imagined in a lifetime. “Who spreads these rumors? Are you this free at work? What are you paid for? Wish I had your job.” These are some thoughts that sure come to mind when you hear a rumor about yourself, like link-ups with counterparts at work, or being rude to your colleagues, spreading nuisance around, and much more.
- On festivals, there are no holidays for you and you want to kill yourself when in morning you wake up to get ready for work and everyone else in the house is snoring loud or probably getting ready for the festive celebrations.
- Being harassed at work is nothing new to hear now. Be it a primary school in a village, a comedian on national television or a journalist at her duty. There have been many instances when the male colleague and/or the BOSS have not only tried hitting on you but have also tried convincing to some ‘quality time’ together. BEWARE!
- Lack of appreciation and encouragement? Sure. You work for the entire month, do the best you can, close the best deals, completes your targets, be good to everyone, and submit your work reports and what not. And then all you want to hear are some words of praise and appreciation, but you don’t hear it at all, and that sure is depressing and de-motivating.
Hurts, isn’t it? But girls, no matter what you come across, always remember, nothing is more important than your own dignity, respect, and importance. People will not worth your presence, and what you do for them until you stop doing it.
Things happen for a reason. Make the best of the opportunities that come across, and the moment you feel things not falling into place, try. Try harder. But if things aren’t in your control anymore, and you feel this isn’t worth it, it’s time to bring change darling. I once read, “If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.”
On the other hand, who are we complaining? Our friends? Colleagues? Boyfriends? Fathers? Husbands? Are they listening? Well, not all. Because if they would have, we, the woman, wouldn’t have been this scared, insecure and anxious at our workplaces, and instances that we hear all the time about harassment at work, wouldn’t have come across us.
So, the men out there, outside work, or otherwise, LISTEN.
So, the next time a woman talks about being cat-called and how it makes her uncomfortable, don’t dismiss her. Listen. The next time your wife complains about being called “Sweetheart” at work, don’t shrug in apathy. Listen. The next time you read about or hear a woman call out sexist language, don’t belittle her for doing so. Listen. The next time your girlfriend tells you that the way a guy talked to her made her feel uncomfortable, don’t shrug it off. Listen.
Listen because your reality is not the same as hers. Listen because her concerns are valid and not exaggerated or inflated.
Listen because the reality is that she or someone she knows personally has at some point been abused, assaulted, or raped. And she knows that it’s always a danger of happening to her.
Listen because even a simple comment from a strange man can send ripples of fear through her. Listen because she may be trying to make her experience not be the experience of her daughters.
Listen because nothing bad can ever come from listening.
On that note, thank you for reading it. If you relate to these experiences leave me a comment below. Go on lovelies, build your own world!
Bravo to womanhood!